To tell or not to tell…The lady of the house is very, very private. WE have family, business friends and virtually no “kinky” friends. And yet, there was Hannah telling an old friend about how she would correct my rudeness or lack of respect.
The decision to share a particular marital dynamic is touchy – after all there is such a thing as over-sharing.
However, a well trained man in my position brings something to a marriage which people notice. I do as I am told. I occasionally refer to Hannah as “ma’am”. If we are entertaining and the maid is not here, I serve. I rise when Hannah enters the room. I let her lead the conversation (well, except when I don’t in which case I eventually remember myself.) She is the lady of the house and my role is as her servant/husband.
People who spend time with us are usually so self absorbed that they take a while to catch on. If Hannah is going out she usually, and quite publically, tells me to take care of a routine household task or two. Ironing, a bit of vacuuming, polishing her boots; but always in a tone which brooks no discussion.
So, at the moment, with intimate friends, there is no secret; but certainly no need to share. With the rest of the world we behave in exactly the same way as we behave in private although, where Hannah might send me to my corner with an old friend over, she is far to ladylike to potentially embarrass a new acquaintance with any overt sign of her dominion.