Or is she leading already but you have simply not made it explicit.
Remember, a female lead relationship is not about the whipping and the corner time; it is about fundamentally surrendering the power men have traditionally held in marriage. “Love, honour and obey” are the wife’s words at the altar. While it has been conventional to leave out the “obey” for modern marriages, in a female lead marriage it is the man who is obliged to say the words and live the life.
To obey your wife, in bed and out, with your friends, your business associates, your family, is a huge, if subtle commitment. A surrendered husband had best hope his wife is as kind and loving as traditional wives pray their husbands will be.
So think about that and then, when you are sure, wait for a quiet moment and kneel to your wife and ask.
Remember, there is a very real danger she’ll say yes so be very sure that a Female Lead Relationship is what you want.